Connecting with your Mom
With Mother’s Day quickly approaching and everyone talking about National Sibling Day recently, I was thinking a lot about growing up as an only child. We don’t have our own day, although a friend’s husband says that every day is only child day. Ha!
Growing up the people I most wanted to spend time with was my parents. Today, besides my husband and my son, my parents are still the people I most want to spend time with. We have a nice little clan of five. And besides my BFFL (best friend for life) Kathy, the woman I most want to spend time connecting with is my mother.
Spending time connecting with one another is really important. We get monthly pedicures together. Every Wednesday, we got to dinner as a family and attend small group gatherings at church. Sunday mornings, we have breakfast together before church. We talk to each other or text multiple times during the week.
There are even times during the year where we just get together to have dinner and reconnect just the two of us. When we don’t talk or have a meal together, both of us feel like we’ve missed out on valuable “girl time”.
Spending time connecting with one another has been such a positive thing. It gives us time to share things that we might not share with others, helps us process information, or to get one another’s opinion on a problem. It’s comforting to know that I have someone, whom I trust implicitly, to share some of my deepest thoughts without being judged or thought less of.
I’ll say again what I said in my 2012 Mother’s Day post. If at all possible, call your mom. Extend forgiveness. Your mom didn’t have a handbook to raise you. She did the best that she could at the time. If you extend forgiveness, it will help heal you inside just a little bit.
If you’re a mom, call your kids, if you haven’t spoken in a while. Make the first step. Ask for forgiveness. Even if you don’t need to. Sometimes taking the first step is all you need to do to begin the healing in a relationship.
Finally, call someone who’s been like a mother to you. Most of us have good women in our lives who are a mother-figure to us. It could be a grandmother, an aunt, a big sister, or a family friend.
Express your gratitude towards those you love and spend some time connecting with others.