Connecting On Mother’s Day

connecting with my mom

Connecting with your Mom

Connecting with my Mom
My mom and me on my wedding day 12/1989


With Mother’s Day quickly approaching and everyone talking about National Sibling Day recently, I was thinking a lot about growing up as an only child.  We don’t have our own day, although a friend’s husband says that every day is only child day.  Ha!

Growing up the people I most wanted to spend time with was my parents.  Today, besides my husband and my son, my parents are still the people I most want to spend time with.  We have a nice little clan of five.  And besides my BFFL (best friend for life) Kathy, the woman I most want to spend time connecting with is my mother.

Spending time connecting with one another is really important.  We get monthly pedicures together.  Every Wednesday, we got to dinner as a family and attend small group gatherings at church.  Sunday mornings, we have breakfast together before church.  We talk to each other or text multiple times during the week.  

There are even times during the year where we just get together to have dinner and reconnect just the two of us.  When we don’t talk or have a meal together, both of us feel like we’ve missed out on valuable “girl time”.  

Spending time connecting with one another has been such a positive thing.  It gives us time to share things that we might not share with others, helps us process information, or to get one another’s opinion on a problem.  It’s comforting to know that I have someone, whom I trust implicitly, to share some of my deepest thoughts without being judged or thought less of.  

I’ll say again what I said in my 2012 Mother’s Day post.  If at all possible, call your mom.  Extend forgiveness.  Your mom didn’t have a handbook to raise you.  She did the best that she could at the time.  If you extend forgiveness, it will help heal you inside just a little bit.  

If you’re a mom, call your kids, if you haven’t spoken in a while.  Make the first step.  Ask for forgiveness.  Even if you don’t need to.  Sometimes taking the first step is all you need to do to begin the healing in a relationship.

Finally, call someone who’s been like a mother to you.  Most of us have good women in our lives who are a mother-figure to us.  It could be a grandmother, an aunt, a big sister, or a family friend.  

Express your gratitude towards those you love and spend some time connecting with others. 




About Sandy Sandmeyer

Lover of Jesus, Scott, my family, sea glass, eyeshadow, pretty toes, the stars & autumn. Theology school student. Doctor of Sacred Studies.

14 thoughts on “Connecting On Mother’s Day

  1. Lovely post Sandy. Wish I could talk to my mum but I have two beautiful children I connect with. Happy Mother’s Day

  2. What a blessing to have your Mom close-by, sharing experiences! I will be calling my Mom, who is in a different state. Have a blessed Mother’s Day!

    1. Reelika, they sure are a blessing! I’m so glad that my mom is so close and that we can see each other any time we want. Happy Mother’s Day to you, too!

    1. Good for you for calling Herchel! It’s never easy to take the first step, but I know I’d regret it if I didn’t say something that I knew I should have. Happy Mother’s Day to you, my friend!

  3. That’s so great you have such a close relationship with your mom. I’m an only child too and I adore my mom as she does me but we are horrible about calling each other! Thanks for sharing with Small Victories Sunday linkup. Pinned to our linkup board and hope you join us again this weekend.

    1. I’ve gotten a little worse about calling (we used to talk every day), but we see each other on Sundays and Wednesdays and share meals both days. Sometimes we just text, too.

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